For many divorcing parents, keeping the children happy is the main priority. For some children, change may not be something they are particularly excited about and the marital residence may be the only home they have ever known. Some parents are now considering “Nesting” as a way of simplifying life post-divorce, but it does come with its own advantages and disadvantages.
Nesting means keeping the family residence intact as a home for the children, whilst the parents rotate living there during their parenting time. Typically, the parents keep a separate residence to stay in whilst they are not residing in the family home during their parenting time. Nesting can be a good transition for the family post-divorce and can be successful in the short-term until both parents and children are comfortable enough to move on.
Even if you and your spouse are rotating in and out of the family home, you will still need a parenting plan. The plan is tailored to each family’s unique situation and should include a schedule of each person’s parenting time and how bills will be funded and paid. It can also include responsibilities such as maintenance, an agreement to leave the home in a reasonable condition when rotating out and also describe what should remain private such as personal computers.
Nesting requires each parent to maintain good communication, trust and an ability to follow rules and agreements. Keep in mind that that there are a number of additional issues you will need to deal with when making this type of arrangement. That is why it is important to work with an experienced divorce lawyer or mediator. If you are considering Nesting and want to know about whether Nesting would be a good plan for you, contact us today.