As social distancing continues to impact how we communicate with others, it is important to think about how our kids are dealing with this new reality and how they are communicating with their peers. Online safety has always been a parent’s responsibility, but we know that now, more than even, our kids needs our protection.
Technical Savvy Apps Can Be Misleading
A recent article by broadbanksearch.net outlines 14 apps and social media sites that parents should be aware of. Some of these apps you may be familiar with such as Instagram, SnapChat and TicTok, however, many you have likely never even heard of such as Caclulator%, Chatroulette, IMVU and Tellonym. We recommend taking a look through this list and familiarizing yourself with the dangers that your children could face when conducting themselves online. It’s a good idea to have regular check ins with your kids to know what type of content they are posting and consuming online. For younger children, you can even set parental controls that disables their access to certain websites to ensure their online safety. It is your responsibility to keep your kids safe online and encourage open and honest dialogue about this topic. It’s also very likely that your kids will know much more than you about this topic so allow them to teach you and frame this as a learning session for all involved.
Establishing Internet Usage Between Homes
It is very important to have a consistent set of rules across both households when it comes to Internet, cell phone usage and online safety in general. A clear set of expectations and rules helps kids with authority and allows them to develop healthy habits around screen time. If you and the other party disagree, or struggle with setting boundaries for your children with respect to screen time, a mediator can assist with negotiating the terms and including them in an Agreement or Court Order.
Parents Social Media Usage During Divorce
Another aspect of online safety you should consider is that of you and your partners. Even if you think your privacy settings are blocking your kids from seeing certain messages, you can never guarantee that they will not be able to access information now, or in the future. As such, it is best practice to never post negatively about your ex-partner / parent of your children. As family law lawyers, we also highly recommend ensuring you are not posting anything that could be interpreted negatively by a Justice or Judge if your social media is used as evidence in the courtroom.
If you are considering divorce and need legal advice, connect with us today.
One of our duties as lawyers is to educate clients about alternative dispute resolutions. This obligation is mandated by the Alberta Family Law Act and the Canada Divorce Act. At Jones Divorce Mediation we aim to minimize the emotional and financial strain of your divorce through alternative processes such as mediation and arbitration.
Mediation is an entirely optional process which can really assist clients in regaining a sense of control over their situation and the outcome. The benefit to an optional process is that generally, each party shows up willing to commit to resolving the issues at hand in the most productive manner possible. As well, a skilled mediator can greatly assist in complex matters, including difficult parties or legal counsel. A skilled mediator can assist clients in reaching resolutions they did not know possible by showing the big picture and not allowing insignificant details to bog down decision making.
A big part of why mediation works so well is that parties come face to face in a neutral environment. Getting together in a shared space can really assist parties in committing, finding solutions and reaching resolutions. In the typical process, wherein legal counsel send correspondence back and forth, momentum can be lost, or communications can become misinterpreted. When parties are face to face, they can easily hash out situations and not get held up by small details. As well, when parties are face to face it is easier for them to share their goals and ideal outcomes of the process and ultimately, it humanizes the situation.
If you currently have counsel, it’s a good idea to ask them who they recommend using for mediation. This is because family law lawyers work with many mediators and have a good sense of who will work best in certain situations. For example, some parties will require a mediator with a strong personality who can ensure the mediation is run efficiently while other situations may require a much more passive approach. It is also important to find a legally trained mediator. Essentially, anyone can claim to be a mediator but you want to ensure the mediator you select should have extensive knowledge of family law to ensure they provide the best service for you.
If you are considering mediation, and want to learn more about the process, we offer complimentary 30-minute sessions to walk you and the other party through the process and what you can expect to resolve through mediation. Connect with us today to learn more or schedule an initial consultation.